The invasion

I need to rant about this. It's for my own sanity. My mother in law had come to stay at my home these few days. I accept them with open arms and had been busy preparing meal for them everyday.

But today when i came back home during lunch hour, i found out that she had rearranged all my food, dry ingredients and utensils at my kitchen. I am not angry but just a little bit annoyed and kecil hati. Even my fridge magnet had also been arranged neatly with a straight line!

In order to understand my feelings, people need to know about my background first. Being the only child in my family, i have my own room and stuff. And I don't like my things to be 'touched' by someone else.

I am not an organized person. I am an" organized mess" type of person. It means that although my things is not neatly arranged, i do know where i put any particular stuff at which drawer. It's just that the things my not be colour coded, or labeled etc.

I love to cook and the kitchen is where i used to hang around. Some dry ingredients like dried chinese mushroom will be put inside the cupboard. But she chose to put it outside which i don't agree with.

It seems like a small matter but it is my home, MY household. Don't you think as the woman at my home, i want someone else to decide how i should organized my things? I am a working matured woman ok. I do have some ego and please give me some face lah. Gosh!

In order not to hurt her feelings, which i unintentionally did just now by saying that she doesn't have to organized the things because we are moving out anywhere, i will moved some of my stuff into it's actual position. (definitely not the fridge magnet, i just leave it as it is).

All in all i feel so insulted because as if she's sending a message that i'm not competent enough. Which i beg to differ because i can cook a decent meal ok. I thought after reading this i would feel better but somehow i'm sad inside because i do want a happy relationship with my mother in law. I am just confused on how i should send the message to her to leave my stuff alone without offending her. Sigh................

Recently, i heard a client of mine had a divorced. They had a child. And the marriage is still very young (1 year++ if i am not mistaken). It turns out that they are living with the in laws).

She said that for a healthy marriage, don't live with your in laws because they will invade your personal space. I couldn't agree more.

Can't wait to go back home and rearranged my stuff back.

Update

Maybe i'm being over sensitive. But at least i'm being honest about my feelings.